Hey there, I’m Neuza. Today, I want to talk to you about something that’s really important when it comes to living a more empowered life: how to set healthy boundaries.
In this post, I will share practical techniques that you can apply to set healthier boundaries in your life.
However, I highly recommend delving into your human design chart to discover the most optimal approach for yourself.

I completely understand where you’re coming from because I’ve been there too. In the past, I used to say “yes” even when I really wanted to say “no”. The thing is, I didn’t even realize that I had the power to set boundaries. This pattern of saying “yes” would happen with my family, friends, and even colleagues. Eventually, I would find myself unable to follow through on all those commitments I made, and it would leave me feeling guilty and disappointed in myself.

Separating your feelings and needs from unspoken obligations around you (especially in your family) can make it hard to set the boundaries you need.  But here’s the good news – my journey with boundaries taught me some invaluable lessons. One of the most important things I learned was how to recognize when my own needs were being pushed aside. Trust me, it wasn’t an easy skill to develop, but it made a world of difference in my life.

Another crucial lesson was understanding what a healthy boundary actually looks like. Interestingly, this wasn’t something I learned while growing up in my family. However, once I grasped the concept and its significance, I was able to navigate my relationships more effectively.

Now, why do I share all this with you? It’s because I truly believe that setting healthy boundaries can bring about profound positive changes in your life. I want you to feel safe and supported in making this shift towards self-care and empowerment.

If you’re ready to explore this further and take the first step towards a more fulfilling life, I invite you to schedule an appointment with me (click here). Together, we can delve deeper into your struggles with boundaries, and I can provide you with the guidance and tools you need to create healthier boundaries that honor your needs and well-being.

You deserve to live a life where your boundaries are respected and you feel empowered in every aspect. Reach out to me and let’s embark on this journey together.

So first, how can you tell that your own needs are getting pushed aside?

Here are some telltale signs you might experience:

• Feeling drained
• Finding it EASIER to give to others than care for yourself
• Feeling angry at other people (especially in close relationships)
• Feeling resentment, like people are asking too much of you
• Blowing up and having to apologize later

The biggest sign that your feelings and needs are a low priority is a feeling of powerlessness – like you’re stuck in the situation and you can’t get out.

Utilizing Simple Techniques and Exploring Your Human Design Chart

Exploring your human design chart can indeed provide you with valuable insights into understanding yourself better and creating healthier boundaries in your relationships. Each design type has its own unique characteristics and ways of interacting with the world. Here are some simple techniques that can help you utilize your human design chart effectively:

1. Start by familiarizing yourself with your design type: Manifestor, Generator, Projector, or Reflector. Each type has its own strategy for making decisions and engaging with others.

2. Understand your strengths and weaknesses: Your chart will reveal specific areas where you excel and areas that may require more attention. By acknowledging these aspects, you can leverage your strengths and work on developing your weaker areas.

3. Establish clear boundaries: Knowing your design type can provide insight into how you naturally interact with others. Use this awareness to establish clear boundaries that honor your needs while respecting the needs of those around you.

4. Communicate effectively: Human design can offer guidance on how you naturally communicate and share your ideas with others. Pay attention to these tendencies and find ways to effectively express yourself in a way that feels comfortable and authentic.

5. Prioritize self-care: Understanding your human design can help you recognize when you need to take time for yourself. Whether it’s alone time, rest, or engaging in activities that bring you joy, honoring your need for self-care is essential for maintaining healthy boundaries.

Remember to approach exploring your human design with curiosity and an open mind.
It’s a journey of self-discovery that can lead to a deeper understanding and acceptance of yourself and others. If you have any specific questions or need guidance along the way, feel free to connect!

Practical Tips for Prioritizing Your Needs

Before you can set boundaries, you need to be aware of your emotional and mental state. If you consistently find yourself overwhelmed or exhausted, it’s crucial to take a step back and evaluate your circumstances. By acknowledging when your needs are being neglected, you can take action to prioritize your well-being.
Until we can separate out our own feelings and needs from the unspoken obligations that surround us, we can’t set the boundaries we need. And boundaries don’t just mean saying “No.”

This exercise will guide you towards creating that reality. No more feeling overwhelmed or taken advantage of! It’s time to reclaim your power and prioritize your own happiness.

Remember, this exercise is just the beginning of your journey towards building stronger boundaries. The more you practice, the more you’ll empower yourself and attract healthier relationships. Trust in your ability to prioritize your well-being and make a positive change in your life.

Ready? Let’s begin this empowering exercise and embrace the limitless possibilities that await you!

Step 1: Let’s take a moment to center ourselves. Feel the connection between your feet and the ground, or the support of the chair beneath you. Be aware of your breath, bringing your focus to the present moment.

Step 2: Now, think of a time when you really wanted to say “No” to someone or a situation. Maybe you did say “No,” but you wish you had handled it more gracefully. Take a moment to reflect on that experience, imagine what you would have liked to say “No” to.

Step 3: Now, ask yourself: What were you saying “Yes” to by saying “No”? What would you have been saying “Yes” to if you had the chance to say “No”?

Step 4: Lastly, picture how you could have expressed your boundary to someone, highlighting what you were saying “Yes” to.

Did you sense a shift during this exercise? What did you discover? And how do you feel now?

You might take some time to journal about your experience. There are many more exercises like this that can help you along your journey.

Setting Boundaries with Family

Setting boundaries with family can be especially challenging. Sometimes, family members may have certain expectations that they believe you should conform to. Be firm and direct in your communication, but also be open to negotiation. Remember, setting boundaries with family is about creating a healthy dynamic, not about cutting them out of your life.

Start by establishing simple boundaries that align with your needs and limitations. Effectively communicate these boundaries with clarity and assertiveness while also respecting others. For example, if you require alone time to recharge, inform your family about your need for space, emphasizing that it is not personal. Setting boundaries should never be about controlling the behavior of others; instead, it is about taking control of your own life.
Our families can be the hardest place to disentangle our own feelings and desires, our obligations, other people’s needs, other people’s feelings and desires. 

Do you ever feel unsure and confused amid all that? Do you feel guilty when a family member is disappointed or angry? Is it hard to feel the difference between wanting to give and having to give?

If you’ve ever felt entangled in the complex web of emotions and desires within your family, you’re not alone. Discover a path towards self-understanding and genuine connection. Take the first step today and book a discovery call with me. Together, we’ll navigate the delicate balance between giving and wanting to give, creating a nurturing space for both yourself and your loved ones.

What Might be Happening Inside When Someone Says “No” to You

Lastly, it’s important to understand what might be happening inside when someone says “no” to you. Try not to take it personally or as a reflection of your worth. Instead, recognize that everyone has their own limits and priorities, and respect their decision.

I invite you to embark on a transformative journey that will empower you to navigate the inevitable moments when someone tells you “No.” While it may never feel pleasant, it should never shake the core of your being. Together, let’s explore an exercise that will change how you perceive these situations and help you maintain your inner sense of peace.

Step 1: Take a moment to imagine or recall a time when you made a request to someone, only to be met with a firm “No.” Allow yourself to choose the scenario that stirs the most emotions within you; this will be our starting point.

Step 2: Now, let us find comfort and stillness in your body. Feel your breath flowing gently, and turn your attention inward to the depths of your being. Focus on your throat, chest, stomach, and abdomen, as if you are tuning in to the very essence of who you are. It is from this place that we will explore the emotions triggered by that “No.”

Step 3: As you envision hearing the word “No” from that person once again, remain open to the feelings that arise within you. Is it resentment, shame, a sense of rejection, or something else entirely? Simply notice without judgment.

Step 4: Now, let us shift our language and our perspective. Repeat these words aloud: “I am sensing something in me feels…” For instance, “I am sensing something in me feels resentful” or “I am sensing something in me feels ashamed.” Take note of how this new approach changes your experience.

NOTE: You will likely find that this shift in language invites curiosity about the part of yourself that is carrying these feelings. It opens up the possibility for insights to emerge, revealing the connections and origins of these emotions within you.

My friend, this exercise is but a taste of the transformation that awaits you. By embracing these principles, you can develop a profound sense of self-knowing and resilience. If you yearn for deeper exploration or desire support along your journey, I warmly encourage you to book a session with me. Together, we will delve into your unique experiences and empower you to navigate life’s challenges with strength and grace.

Remember, setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is an ongoing practice. It’s important to listen to your own needs and prioritize self-care in all your interactions. Invest in yourself and prioritize the relationships that matter most, the ones that nurture your soul!

Thank you for taking the time to read this post and for joining me on this heartfelt journey.
I hope you found it helpful and informative. As I poured my thoughts into these words, it felt like a conversation between old friends, and I’m truly grateful for your presence here.
Your commitment to personal growth and genuine connection is inspiring for me and for the many that surround you! Keep going!

Let’s continue this journey together! Through my coaching, we’ll embark on a transformative journey where you’ll learn to identify, communicate, and honor your boundaries, paving the way for deeper understanding and genuine connection.
Looking forward to know you better!